Thursday, February 3, 2011

Candles are Meant to Be Lit

I was doing a bit of Blog reading over at Debbie Doos

about her recent Scentsy Candle giveaway ,
Sheila who was the lucky winner said something that resonated with me " I adore candles and have them all over the house and I even light them up! :)"

How many of you light all those pretty sweet smelling candles we have ?
I try to but something always stops me from doing it .
It brought to my mind a beautiful Poem that I read many years ago by the Late Erma Bombeck,those of us over 40 would remember her as a humerous  journalist ,I recall reading her articles in the Australian Womens magazines even though it was very long time ago.(yes I was nerdy child with hunger to read anything)
She wrote this poem just after being diagnosed with a terminal illness ,it is truly meaningful and something I try to live my life by ,notice I said try sometimes.( that terrible type A personality just can't be held back:)

This is a my daughters company Christmas party last year ,how beautiful and romantic it looked like a truly magical evening and this is example of why you should light your candles .If this room was exactly the same but the candles where unlit ,yes it would still be beautiful but magical or special? Not so much!

If I Had My Life To Live Over

by Erma Bombeck

If I had my life to live over, I would have talked less and listened more.

I would have invited friends over to dinner even if the carpet was stained and the sofa faded.

I would have eaten the popcorn in the 'good' living room and worried much less about the dirt when someone wanted to light a fire in the fireplace.

I would have taken the time to listen to my grandfather ramble about his youth.

I would never have insisted the car windows be rolled up on a summer day because my hair had just been teased and sprayed.

I would have burned the pink candle sculpted like a rose before it melted in storage.

I would have sat on the lawn with my children and not worried about grass stains.

I would have cried and laughed less while watching television - and more while watching life.

I would have shared more of the responsibility carried by my husband.

I would have gone to bed when I was sick instead of pretending the earth would go into a holding pattern if I weren't there for the day.

I would never have bought anything just because it was practical, wouldn't show soil or was guaranteed to last a lifetime.

Instead of wishing away nine months of pregnancy, I'd have cherished every moment and realized that the wonderment growing inside me was the only chance in life to assist God in a miracle.

When my kids kissed me impetuously, I would never have said, "Later. Now go get washed up for dinner."

There would have been more "I love you's".. More "I'm sorrys" ...

But mostly, given another shot at life, I would seize every minute... look at it and really see it ... live it...and never give it back.

When I think about it, Erma may have been a blogger at heart.

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  1. Wow.. I love the picture of that room with all those candles lit. Looks so romantic! Erma Bombeck was a great author. I loved reading her work. As far as candles.. I love them, however my fireman husband calls them "House burners". I have to admit though, I somehow have to agree as I had four small fires in our old home to do them. I have since gotten very careful in how I burn them, what kind of candles I burn and being more mindful to snuffing them.. I love all my scented candles..

  2. Thanks for sharing the Erma Bombeck. How true.

  3. I love that Erma Bombeck writing. And I'm a candle burner. I was working on a post about this very subject! I'll be sure to reference your post when I get it up. Thanks for sharing!

  4. I definitely think Erma was a blogger at heart! I've always loved that. As a matter of fact, I have used it as an inspirational moment before a group of volunteers. Love it! And along with that, I think it's important for bloggers to share the light of friendship and love in a world that is longing for those things.


    Sheila :-)

  5. Sharon this is such a beautiful post, I am in tears. What she wrote is so true and touched my heart close to home! I have looked death in the face and I regret that I still need to be reminded of how to "live" life. I think that I will print this beautiful poem off and hang it somewhere, thank you my friend for posting this.
    I love candles and I am happy to say that I light them whenever I get a chance, there is something so beautiful on the glow and dancing light of a little flame. :)

  6. ERma Bombeck would have been a wonderful, funny blogger. I have a cupboard full of good smelly candles. It is what everyone gives you when your old LOL Nope, don't get to lighting them!


  7. I love Erma!~ I thank you for the mention. Your emails just tickle me:) I will see you Monday. And yes I love candles and I light em up! They are just scentsy's are not.

  8. I love this poem! It really is important to keep all these things in mind! I light my candles but not nearly enough. Same goes for living. :)

  9. Dear Sharon,
    Wise words from that lovely lady..Erma! Every time I read something of her's I think I better start listening..Thanks for the reminder.
    Love those candles lit..I always have a candle burning. I love sweet aroma all the time..and I could live by lamplight!
    Have a wonderful evening my friend..

  10. I always enjoyed her books. Glad you shared part of her world with us again.

  11. Wow! I loved looking at that room your daughter's party was in. Those candelabra were fabulous! Ohhhh, it was like an enchanting room in a palace. Thanks for sharing. I DO light candles. Right now, the one burning in the hall is Orange Cinnamon by Village Candles. Smells divine and it goes all through the house. Susan

  12. I found you on the la bella vita blog hop - just had to find out more about that gorgeous picture! So beautiful! With 2 little ones at home, candlelight is rare for me, so thanks for sharing that with us!

  13. Beautiful. I found through blogging hopping from Beatrice banks. Who doesn't like candles and the beautiful reflections? That party is gorgeous! How lucky your daughter is.
    And yes, I love Erma too! Thanks for sharing. I am glad I found you. Oh, I am your newest follower. Enjoy your week-end. Linda

  14. I LOVED Erma.

    I rarely light a candle, I think it just seems like a bother so I don't.

    Thanks for you visit to my blog today!

  15. I think we would all be followers of Erma's blog, wouldn't we? Imagine reading her insightful posts everyday.
    Note to self: remember to light the candles this evening!

  16. All those candelabra, all lit up with candles, what a gorgeous room for your daughter's party, she was so lucky.
    I'm your nwest follower, I love visiting you, I look forward to your visit, I'd be thrilled. I love Erma Bombek, great words from such a talented lady, thanks for sharing, it's great reading again.

  17. Hello my friend...

    What a pleasure to have you join in with the Sunday Favorites repost party this week! What a great post! I love Erma Bombeck...and yes, I am old enough to know her! Hehe! She really did have such a wonderful way...humorous...yet wise way of getting a point across! I had read this poem that she wrote some time ago...but it was nice to read again! It's sooo very true! Thanks for sharing it with us!

    Ohhh my...your daughter's company Christmas party must have been fabulous! All those gorgeous candelabras...every candle lit...definitely magical!!! Thank you again for joining in with Sunday Favorites!

    Have a wonderful week, my friend!
    Chari @Happy To Design